Gaining Control over Your Emotions
23 Sep 2018
Historically, the church has devoted plenty of attention to spiritual things, but very little attention to emotions. Realistically, we must admit that we all have feelings; therefore, it makes sense to talk about them and learn how to deal with them. It is okay to have emotions, as long as they do not dominate us. God wants us to achieve emotional stability. This means asserting authority over our feelings and learning to fall “out of love” with our emotions. Real power and success comes from the ability to control our emotions, which is where the devil focuses his attacks. When we are aware of the enemy’s tactics, we can be on guard against all his efforts.
- Our feelings can either bring us to success or to failure. We can control our emotions.
- Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth (3 John 1:2).
- Our success and prosperity in life is based on how successful we are in our souls. Our souls are our minds, wills, and emotions.
- Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in every way and [that your body] may keep well, even as [I know] your soul keeps well and prospers (3 John 1:2, AMPC).
- God ’s will for us is to be successful in every way and at all levels. Our soul—specifically, our emotions—is the key to this type of success.
- For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin (Hebrews 4:15).
- Even Jesus had emotions, but He refused to let them master Him. Never once did He allow His feelings to lead Him to sin.
- All sin is conceived in emotion.
- Jesus had emotions but He maintained control over them. We have the same authority.
- And He took with Him Peter and James and John, and began to be struck with terror and amazement and deeply troubled and depressed. And He said to them, My soul is exceedingly sad (overwhelmed with grief) so that it almost kills Me! Remain here and keep awake and be watching. And going a little farther, He fell on the ground and kept praying that if it were possible the [fatal] hour might pass from Him (Mark 14:33-35, AMPC).
- Jesus knew all about depression, stress, fear, grief, and sadness. However, He refused to cede His authority to these emotions.
- When we feel negative emotions, we must not change our course. We must keep going forward in doing what God has called us to do.
- We must also continue praying. This keeps us focused on what God told us to do.
- Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee (Isaiah 26:3).
- God does not want our emotions to take charge and move us in a direction away from His will for us.
- Wherever our minds go, our emotions will follow.
- Negative circumstances should not control our emotions. We can still have peace and joy even when bad things happen.
- Moreover all these curses shall come upon thee, and shall pursue thee, and overtake thee, till thou be destroyed; because thou hearkenedst not unto the voice of the Lord thy God, to keep his commandments and his statutes which he commanded thee: And they shall be upon thee for a sign and for a wonder, and upon thy seed for ever. Because thou servedst not the Lord thy God with joyfulness, and with gladness of heart, for the abundance of all things; Therefore shalt thou serve thine enemies which the Lord shall send against thee, in hunger, and in thirst, and in nakedness, and in want of all things: and he shall put a yoke of iron upon thy neck, until he have destroyed thee (Deuteronomy 28:45-48).
- The people were judged because they did not serve God with the right emotions. The curses resulted from their disobedience.
- Under the old covenant, the people were judged if they were not thankful. Fortunately, we are no longer under that covenant.
- We have a choice as to how we feel.
- The right emotions bring us peace of mind and enhance our lives. This is God’s will.
- Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me (John 14:1).
- This implies that we have authority over our emotions. We can choose to have peace in times of trouble.
- I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live(Deuteronomy 30:19).
- God sets a choice before us, and then tells us what to choose. Our choices are powerful.
- Choosing life gives us emotional stability. We have a right to choose the way we feel.
- For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace(Romans 8:6).
- Again, we have a choice. We do not have to be dominated by our physical senses.
- When we are spiritually-minded, we can find emotional stability.
- It is the spirit that quickeneth; the flesh profiteth nothing: the words that I speak unto you, they are spirit, and they are life(John6:63).
- We must choose whether or not to allow the Word of God to dominate our emotions.
- We can choose our emotional response. Dominating our emotions puts us in control.
- Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:6, 7).
- We need to accept accountability for our emotions. We cannot blame a lack of emotional control on God or the devil.
- Things will happen, but we do not need to be anxious or worried about them.
- These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world(John 16:33).
- We can take charge of our emotions at all times and in every situation, even when things are not going well.
- Choosing to “be of good cheer” takes us where we need to go to find the supply we need to handle the situation.
- Peace will guard our emotions. We do not need to take on others’ drama.
- Although the fig tree shall not blossom, neither shall fruit be in the vines; the labour of the olive shall fail, and the fields shall yield no meat; the flock shall be cut off from the fold, and there shall be no herd in the stalls: Yet I will rejoice in the Lord , I will joy in the God of my salvation(Habakkuk 3:17, 18).
- This is an example of maintaining emotional control.
- Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempteth he any man: But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death(James 1:13-15).
- Negative emotions are not God’s will for us. He is not behind these kinds of feelings.
- We are only tempted when we are drawn away by our own strong emotions.
3 John 1:2
3 John 1:2, AMPC
Mark 14:33-35, AMPC
Philippians 4:6, 7
Habakkuk 3:17, 18